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4 Signs That Your Child Is Heading In The Wrong Direction

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4 Signs That Your Child Is Heading In The Wrong Direction

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that in today’s world things can be rough and often times it is tempting for a maturing child to turn to things or activities that are not healthy for them. The list of unhealthy activities is long, however, we all know that drugs are rampant, alcohol is abundant, sexual temptations are calling and technology that can make things appear real, even though they are not.  

As parents we try to protect our children and keep them away from harm but sometimes our children, (especially teenagers), start leaning towards activities because of peer pressure, a desire to ‘fit in’, wanting to try something new, they are bored, etc…  Unfortunately, their unwise choices could negatively affect or destroy their future. So what are the warning signs?

Disclaimer: I am not a doctor or mental health professional. I am simply a Mom and Grandmother with life experience and the opinions listed below are strictly my own.

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As a child matures, it is normal for them to want to spend some time alone or with their friends and away from their siblings or parents. However, if your child starts withdrawing more and more to their room it may be a sign. They start making excuses why they spend abnormal amounts of time away from home. Also, another potential flag, they develop a diminished interest in hobbies or a sudden lack of family values.

As parents, you need to put your ‘detective’ hat on and find out where they are going, what they are doing and who they are with. Know who their friends are and know their friend’s parents. Do not be afraid to call and check on your child when they are ‘suppose’ to be at a friends house. Do not be afraid to stop by unannounced at a party or sleep-over. Does your child bring their friends over to the house to hang out so you can get to know them a little better? If not, they most likely are hiding something.

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As a parent, you know your child better than anyone and you know what the ‘normal’ is for your child.  If your child develops an extreme shift in their mood, there may be more to it than simple growing pains. Sometimes an internal emotional conflict will cause the child to become extremely defiant. Because they usually know right from wrong, they often display anger towards their loved ones. 


As parents, have you been a good model to your child or is there a history of substance abuse within the family unit? Studies show that children raised in a home where family members use drugs and alcohol have a greater chance of using substances themselves. Why wouldn’t they? To them, it seems perfectly normal and acceptable. Usually kids start getting drugs through their friends, eventually building a network of dealers whom they meet in parking lots, fast-food restaurants, superstores, gas stations and movie theaters.

Look closely at your child. Here are some signs to look for:

  • rapid weight loss
  • paleness and/or discoloration of the skin
  • dark circles under the eyes
  • shaky hands
  • sudden mood changes
  • rise in anger at family members
  • dropping grades and/or skipping classes
  • using street or drug language
  • wearing a hat or hoodie that they pull down over their eyes
  • always wearing shirts or jackets to cover their arms at all times
  • they start chewing gum a lot
  • using eye drops in their eyes to reduce redness
  • they answer questions with short “Yes” or “No” answers
  • they do not want to spend any time with their family

Again, as parents you have the right to play ‘detective’. Look through their pockets, purses, wallets and backpacks. Check their bedrooms – under the mattress, behind and beneath the dressers or cabinets, check the back of drawers, check their closet – paying close attention to pockets in clothing that they may not even wear. Check their vehicle for evidence – such as small pieces of joints or white pasty substances on CD’s, dashboards, pictures, mirrors, etc… Do you smell any strange odors? Check your child’s attendance at school. Ask your child’s teachers if they have received any notes from home. If so, make sure they are legit and not forged. 


Is your teenager getting into trouble? Are they taking chances that they normally would never do?  Perhaps vandalizing, playing ‘dare devil’ and/or stealing? Maybe they are disrespectful and or/ physically harming themselves, their family members, others or animals? Are they bulling other children? Disconnecting their choices from the consequences? These are all serious signs and should not be ignored.  


In conclusion, as parents we want to be able to trust our children. However, the most trusting parents are the ones who are the easiest to take advantage of.  If you start noticing that something just isn’t quite right – do not ignore that feeling!  It is easier to correct something early on then let it develop into something much more severe. 

If your child isn’t doing anything wrong, then they have nothing to worry about. If they get upset or angry that you are checking up on them … oh well!  My answer: “I am your parent first and foremost.  I do not answer to you but to God. Some day I will stand before Him and give an account of my parenting. Therefore, you can get as angry as you want to. I will do what is right and be the best parent to you that I can possibility be.” This parental response has left many an angry teenager speechless.

Being a parent is rewarding. Being a good parent is hard work. Having a healthy relationship with your child takes consistency, time, effort, good communication, an open, strong, non-judgmental, engaged parent. Help your child to feel comfortable coming to you with their concerns and fears. If you get angry every time they come to you the next time they won’t want to share what’s going on. Listen to them. Give them sound advise. Love on them and be present. 

Do not grow weary in your parenting efforts and do not be ashamed to ask for additional help and/or counseling. There is no perfect parent and it always helps to have a good team and support system. Time goes so quickly and before you know it… your child will be grown and a parent themselves. In the end, you will not regret the time you have spent molding and developing an emotionally healthy, mature individual. 

If you suspect your child is needs help in dealing with issues with your child, check out the following resources:




Here’s to being happy and healthy!


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  • hobbies that pay August 18, 2014, 3:22 pm
    Right here is the perfect webpage for everyone who wishews to find out about this topic. You understand so much its almost hard to argue with you (not that I personally would want to…HaHa). You certainly put a new spin on a subject that's been discussed for many years. Wonderful stuff, just great! My Profile
    • Blessed Beyond Crazy August 18, 2014, 4:35 pm
      Thank you for stopping by and for your kind comments. I hope that this simple little post will help parents in some small way.
  • Sandy Sandmeyer August 7, 2014, 10:23 am
    I'm so grateful that we haven't had to go through these issues. It breaks my heart to see families suffer. It's nice to know that they can find some help here. My Profile
    • Blessed Beyond Crazy August 8, 2014, 7:56 pm
      Thanks Sandy. I hope this article does help. Thank you for stopping by.

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